Sustainable Success Nudge from Your Future Self

💬 “Trust is not doing nothing.”
It’s staying deeply connected while allowing reality to reveal what you cannot yet see.

Hi Melinda,

After sharing the story about our Morocco retreat “delay” in my last email, several people replied with some version of this question:

“But how do you actually trust the timing without dropping the vision… or dropping into By Me when that’s been your approach for so long?”

That’s such an important question.

Because many high performers secretly associate trust with being passive, losing momentum, not caring enough, or “just hoping things work out.”

But that’s not Through Me.

Through Me doesn’t mean “I’ll just sit back and do nothing.”

And it definitely doesn’t mean “I no longer care about the outcome.”

In fact, I often find the opposite is true.

The vision is still clear. The commitment is still deep. The desire is still alive.

What changes is the relationship to force.

Instead of gripping tighter…you begin listening more carefully.

And that’s the part many high achievers miss:

Trusting the timing is an active process.

It’s awareness.
Discernment.
Listening.
Paying attention.
Staying connected to yourself while life reveals what you cannot yet fully see.

By Me limits your awareness to what you can currently see, predict, and control.

But life is far bigger than that.

Through Me creates space for possibilities, timing, insights, relationships, and experiences you cannot yet fully see, but that are quietly unfolding nonetheless.

And interestingly enough, I experienced this again just yesterday.

I had a conversation with my dad where he shared something deeply important happening within our family. As I listened, I immediately felt:

“Oh… THIS is another reason the retreat needed to be delayed.”

The vision wasn’t wrong.
We hadn’t failed.
The opportunity didn’t disappear.

The pause created space for something profoundly important that I could not have seen when we were originally trying to force our initial timeline.

And had we forced the pilot retreat to happen on the original schedule, I likely would have missed what may become one of the most meaningful experiences for my family this year.

The moment I realized that, I just sat there smiling.

Deeply grateful that I listened.

That I trusted.

That I didn’t abandon myself in the name of momentum nor in the fear of missing out.

That’s what Through Me often looks like in real life.

With presence and a huge smile,
Melinda