Sustainable Success Nudge from Your Future Self:

💬 “Your lens doesn’t just reflect your world—it creates it.”

This week: Before reacting to any challenge, pause and ask—

“What lens am I seeing this through?”

Because how you see determines how you show up. And how you show up determines the way in which you create, implement, act and receive.

Hi Melinda,

As a high-achiever with big dreams and high expectations, one of the biggest breakthroughs in my own journey was realizing this:

I didn’t need to change everything around me—I needed to change how I was seeing it.

Most high-performers think they need a new plan, a new system, or a new strategy when things start to feel hard. 

But often, what is most impactful… is a new lens.

Because your lens shapes your reality.

When you’re operating in By Me mode—the doer mindset—you see the world through effort.  The mantra that drives everything is:

“If it’s got to be, it’s up to me!”

And if you’re not constantly doing or striving, it feels like nothing will happen.
If nothing is happening, you assume you’re not doing enough.
So you push harder. Control more. Tighten your grip.
You mistake force for focus.

Soon, even your self-care—or what I call self-leadership—gets ignored or turned into another project to perfect.
You operate in a constant state of output, convinced that if you ever take your foot off the gas, everything will fall apart…or worse, fail.

But when you shift into Through Me, and begin to see things through this lens, everything changes.
You still take action—but it’s guided, not forced.
You trust timing. You allow space. You listen before you leap.
You stop trying to make things happen, and start letting things move through you—allowing inspiration to lead the way, observing synchronicities, acting on instinct.

That shift in perspective changes everything:

• The same client challenge becomes an invitation to practice presence.
  
  
• The same long to-do list becomes an opportunity to deeply listen for what wants to come forth, not just what’s urgent.
  
  
• The same “stuck” project starts to flow again—because you stopped fighting it.
  
  

Here’s what I often tell my clients (and remind myself):
🪞 You don’t see the world as it is. You see it as you are.

Your consciousness colors your reality.

Try this:
Think of one area in your business or life that feels heavy right now.
Then ask:

“If I looked at this through the lens of Through Me instead of By Me… what would I see differently?”

Let your answer come gently.
You don’t have to fix it—just see it differently.
Because awareness changes everything.

If you want to go deeper into this, revisit Chapter 2 of Sustainable Success, where I unpack the 4 Levels of Consciousness and how they transform not just what you do—but who you become while doing it.

👉 I’d love to hear from you:
Reply and tell me one moment recently when you realized your lens shifted—and what changed when it did.

With clarity and compassion,
Melinda